<< Back to all Blogs
Login or Create your own free blog
Layout:
Home > Can Y'all See This???

Can Y'all See This???

January 4th, 2007 at 02:21 am

...yeah, right here. Come a little closer. Is it just me or right here across my forehead does it say S-U-C-K-E-R? Well, then what about this cap I'm wearing. You know, the pointy one. Is that D-U-N-C-E I see?

I have got to be one of the most gullible people out there. My ex-bf came over my house today to, once again, "borrow" money. He's been having a real rough two years. He's a carpenter by trade and while working a job, he had an entire side of a house fall on him as the crew was trying to raise it. With that, it broke his back.

Now, yes, he did go on disability, but was still living like he was working full time and having that income. When the settlement came, he was so behind on bills already, that most of the $$ went to catch up.

Fast forward to this year and his ex-gf (me). He's come around several times in dire straights begging for a loan. Now, y'all know it's not a loan, 'cuz I'll never see a cent of it. Let's just call it a gift then. This gift is now at $2,900!!!!

I know, I know! I told you I had sucker writen across my forehead! For many different things, I can say no. To many different people (usually myself the most), I can say no. But to him, I just can't seem to say it. I feel so badly for everything he's gone through and I don't want to see him out on the streets.

Here I am, trying to find ways to cut back, save, figure out how to use things one more time, and I have given this man one-twelfth of my total take home pay for a year! *heavy sigh* This is one thing that I don't know how to control. Frown

Posted in The Journey | 4 Comments »

4 Responses to “Can Y'all See This???”

  1. nance Says:
    January 4th, 2007 at 02:24 am 1167877483
    1167877483

    The man is using you. Let him go home to his Mama!
    You are much too kind.
    When you see him coming, run!

  2. i'm going to win Says:
    January 4th, 2007 at 05:49 am 1167889777
    1167889777

    Move and don't tell him or his family, or mybe change your phone number, get caller ID. I moved after my soon to be ex asked me to leave the house just so I could get away from her family and them asking for loans and what not ie. can you loan use one of your delivery truck to move, or can we borrow this or that, get a discount on that. NO,NO,NO, just stand up and say NO!!! Now the receptionest is not allowed for any call to get to me with out my say so, so sad I used to take every call to my extension no questions asked now I have to screen my calls what a mess.
    Please take my advice having Albatros around your neck not only drowns them but also YOU.

  3. Cheetahwoman7 Says:
    January 4th, 2007 at 05:14 pm 1167930855
    1167930855

    Moving is not an option as I'm buying the house. I realize that he can be an Albatros and that it's more my own actions I need to change. I just have to find a way to say NO and have him understand that I mean it. Or better yet have me say no and have ME understand that I mean it. Smile

  4. fern Says:
    January 4th, 2007 at 05:38 pm 1167932334
    1167932334

    You MUST learn to say no.

    Its' clear you stll care about him, which is understandable, but he can't treat you like a piggy bank. You will jeopardize your hard-win savings.

    C'mon! Tough love!

Leave a Reply

(Note: If you were logged in, we could automatically fill in these fields for you.)
*
Will not be published.
   

* Please spell out the number 4.  [ Why? ]

vB Code: You can use these tags: [b] [i] [u] [url] [email]